Here’s a question I’ve been asking myself for quite some time now: What sparks passion between two people?
For me, in my life, it’s never really been about external appearance. That isn’t to say that I don’t care about a man’s looks at all, but rather that I don’t really have a type, and can find myself drawn to almost any type of look as long as there’s ‘the spark’. The spark is difficult to explain, but for the sake of science, I’m going to try. So after a lot of consideration, here they are, the top 5 qualities in a man that attract me:
1. Men I am drawn to are confident. It can be any kind of confidence, either the guy’s good looking and he knows it, or he’s smart and he knows it, or he’s a good flirt and he had me at hello and he knows it. It doesn’t really matter what he’s confident about, but basically he knows he’s a catch. There is a limit of course, because over-confidence is a definite turn off.
2. A man I’m attracted knows what he wants, and it’s me. It’s definitely a huge turn on when a man doesn’t linger or hesitate, but shows his interest – loud and clear.
3. This one is probably evolutionary. In terms of looks, I’m attracted to a healthy looking man. Not too skinny, not to robust, energetic, easygoing, if he’s into any form of sports that’s a bonus, if he likes good food (not processed junk) that’s a bonus. He better not smoke and he better have a healthy sex drive.
4. Sensitive, but not melodramatic. This guy will totally catch on if I’m having an off day. He’s sensitive enough to notice when we’re making out and I’m not really into it. He might ask if I’m ok or let me know that if I want to talk, he’s there. But unless I initiate a conversation, he’s not going to make an issue out of me being a little moody. Instead, he’ll touch me in all the right places to help me forget about everything.
5. Finally, and this is maybe one of the most important points, I’m attracted to men who are generally happy, who like their lives and feel good about themselves and their situation. It doesn’t really matter what they do for a living, how much money they make, what their goals are or what they’ve achieved. If it’s good enough for them, it’s good enough for me.